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“I’m still in absolute amazement and stunned by how talented you are. Your ability to make women see how amazing they are, inside and out, is such a gift! I’m still at a loss for words and am pretty certain it will take some time before I actually accept that that is in fact me. I had body issues that bordered on life threatening for 10 years (I neglected to mention that) and at almost 29 am still trying to learn to accept my body. This has almost been therapeutic and given me something to have on hand on the days when I’m not feeling so great about myself. This was literally (one of) your calling(s). Your eye and ability to make women feel amazing and so sexy, even when they otherwise feel exact zero confidence in themselves….literally have no words. You’re fucking amazing. Life changing. Thank you so much for showing me what I have spent years trying to find and see for myself. “

I cried.

And even now, I cry.

When Miss H came in to view her images I was so nervous. She was so quiet. And still. And I was so worried that she hated her photos.

But when I got home I saw this email. And it took the wind out of me.

Miss H works in a very male dominated field. She wears a uniform everyday and very rarely wears makeup or has her hair done.

Having a session was a way to get in touch with the feminine side of her that she doesn’t express very often.

I loved how open she was to suggestion. As the session progressed, I became more and more enamored by her amazing sense of humor and her exclamations of “I feel like I’m looking at my husbands browser history but in a good way!” had my insides bursting with laughter.

I don’t think words can express just how grateful I am for her. She is such an amazing woman and I was more than happy to share in this experience of self discovery with her.

I don’t want to just make women feel beautiful. I want them to see their power. I want to show them their strength. I want them to embrace their sexual selves that society says should be restrained and to own their femininity in a way that is completely their own.

And most of all, I want them to wake up in the morning with the new breath of confidence that nobody can take away from them.

Miss H, thank you so much for allowing me to share your experience.

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This is a post I have been trying to write for the last three years.

It has been sitting in my drafts folder just waiting to be put out there.But every time I think I am ready to hit “Publish” I panic and decide that I will do it the next day.

But the next day turned into the next week turned into the next month turned into the next year.

I am an extremely open person and I have no problem spilling everything. Except for when it comes to my feelings. Which is a bit ironic for a Psych grad.

The fact that I am a boudoir photographer who stands firmly by self love and acceptance, confidence, and living life with unrestrained passion makes me feel like the biggest crock.

My confession: I don’t always practice what I preach.

Growing up I was constantly bullied. First it was because I had a black father and I lived in Arkansas. Next it was because I had a white mother and lived in Louisiana. The thick plastic glasses definitely didn’t help. And then came puberty in all of its glory. In 6th grade I started to develop my ginormous hips and then it was all downhill from there. I was teased for being bigger, although when I look back, I was no bigger than everybody else. I was mocked and “complimented” by others only because my reaction to such a compliment made their joke even funnier.

I was taller among my growing peers. I was incredibly awkward. I felt like a giant.

As time went on, I continued down the path of self hatred. I would look in the mirror and cry for hours. I would find solace in a blade cutting into my flesh, because at least that was a pain I could control. I wanted nothing more than to disappear and die.

I wish I could say that it was just a brief time in my life, but it wasn’t. In the darkest of times I find that these thoughts still creep back.

Years of bullying, being told I wasn’t good enough, and being cast aside because I was different have left wounds that never seem to heal.

I have an extremely hard time feeling confident about myself, which is incredibly ironic given my profession.

I spend my days building women up and having them feel great about themselves for who they are, yet I cannot do the same.

I am nowhere near where I want to be on my journey towards self acceptance. Not even close.

But I can tell you one thing: my body is a reflection of my strength.

My scars remind me of the deepest depression that I have ever felt and of how hard I worked to get back into the light.

Each stretch mark shows me just how much my body has developed into that of a woman’s.

My stomach and breasts have grown and nourished the most beautiful being that I have ever laid my eyes upon.

I am perfectly flawed.

I had my husband shoot my boudoir session because he inspires me.

We have been together since I was 13 years old and he has seen me grow into the woman that I am now. And he has loved me fiercely throughout it all.

I think that there is so much to be said about seeing yourself through the eyes of your lover.

I struggled to see what he sees in me. I never understood how somebody could see me in the morning, a mixture of morning breath, unstyled hair, and glasses, and find that beautiful. He would compliment me and i would roll my eyes. He would hold me and kiss me with so much passion that it overwhelmed me, and a small part of me was wondering why he was doing it.

Last month I attended a workshop in Canada and it was life changing. I’m not exaggerating, nor am I kidding.

The Last Forty Percent workshop forced me to think about myself and the part of myself that I had lost touch of.

At one time, I was confident. And fearless. And filled with sexual passion.

It came and went, but it was there.

And it was so freeing.

Somehow between life and motherhood I lost that part of myself.

Since returning, I have been on a mission to regain myself.

I have been on an active pursuit of self love.

I have been forcing myself outside of my comfort zone and casting aside any second thoughts of how others may perceive me and my actions.

I am saying fuck it.

I am doing what I want, when I want, and on my own terms.

Because dammit, I have been afraid for far too long. I have been insecure for too much of my life.

And that is no way to live.

I had my husband photograph my boudoir session because he is my lover, my rock, and the one person that I will always be 100% myself around.

Seeing myself through his eyes has finally allowed me to hit “Publish” after all of these years.

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  • Stacey - You are so beautiful, LeZandra. Inside and out. We have never even met and just the conversations we’ve had and what I see of you online is nothing but pure and raw. Thank you for putting yourself out there and taking the steps in seeing yourself how others see you. I hope that self love continues to grow. Kinda. It may be scary what you do with all that hotness, but I guess we’ll have to wait and find out. ;)

    You rock, girly! <3ReplyCancel

  • Elizabeth Zimmerman - This is incredible. YOU are incredible! I’m so proud of you! xoxoReplyCancel

  • Jen Swedhin - I hate that you have ever felt that way, because I have always seen you as so gorgeous and strong and unique. I love these images,and I love the story. Good for you for finally sharing it, even though it was hard. I might just do the same thing! xoxoReplyCancel

  • Dan Spence - Stunning. Absolutely stunning.ReplyCancel

  • Lynn Clark - I’m pretty sure that everything you’ve expressed here is incredibly common among boudoir photographers. So, you’re not alone. I think many of us migrate to this business because every shoot we do that helps heal a part inside a client also helps heal a part inside us. I have a different-yet-similar story, but to the same end. I’m glad you shared these. You are a stunning woman inside and out.ReplyCancel

  • Shiang-ling Bissonnette - You are HOTTT!! I love that you are on your journey back to loving your self!ReplyCancel

  • Dave - What an empowering story! Beautiful photos too. I once had a client tell me she shared her photos with her man and asked “is this how you see me??” . He said “hell yeah, that’s what I’ve been saying!”
    She finally started recovering from the negative stuff a controlling ex had said to her, along with her own echoes of the abuse.
    It’s an awesome powerReplyCancel

  • Hannah Isabella - There are a lot of people reading this (myself included) who completely, through and through, understand where you are coming from. Everyone has scars. Some are more visible than others. I know I speak for a massive number of people when I say that I/we understand, and stand with, you, 100%. But HOLY HELL these turned out f**king amazing.ReplyCancel

  • Ophelia Derriere - Guuuuuurrlll, you give do much of yourself to the people you photograph in the most beautiful way. I’m so happy to see you nurture yourself in the same way. Rock on, you bad-ass lady!!ReplyCancel

  • Samantha - I can relate in so many ways. Thank you for having the courage to share your story! Beautiful photos!!!ReplyCancel

I know she’s expecting a teaser, so here you go Miss Jicon smile Miss J: Virginia Beach Boudoir Photographer

Miss J is a bad ass. She is a veteran, cancer survivor, and lover of ratchet music.

I absolutely LOVED that she was down for anything and she made my job so easy!

Miss J has been following my work since I lived in Hawaii. Her sister had scheduled a session with me for her grooms gift and she raved about her experience! I was so excited having Miss J in as well!!! She and her sister are like complete opposites, but they share so many similarities! They are both extremely strong and courageous women. It was so amazing having hem both in!

Miss J has a beautiful fierceness about her. She is bold and brazen. And she was such a pleasure to work with!!!

I cannot wait to share more images with you! But for now, a couple of teasers:

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  • JermaineandJenn Foreste - LOVE YOU! Thank you girlReplyCancel